I’ve been spending a lot of time recently thinking about self care. It’s a term that I’ve only really heard of since becoming a mother, which is silly because everyone needs some amount of personal care at all stages of his or her life. I think it’s just that before I was a mother, I never really thought about it because I had (what now seems like) unending time to do whatever I felt like doing, whenever I wanted to do it.
Now it’s becoming a rather critical part of my routine. At least, it should be. This week, I’ve tried to be more intentional with the ways that I care for myself. This week’s challenge has been to shower ever day. I can’t even believe that’s a thing I have to remind myself to do. But it is. I don’t go to an office and I don’t really even see people every day, so there’s sort of no point. And then there’s that pesky toddler that lives with me. She requires so much of my time and attention that it sometimes feels impossible to do things to care for myself. I’m lucky I eat breakfast most days.
So how has it gone so far? Not great. I showered on Monday. It is now Wednesday and I have yet to shower. But I think part of the point of this is that I’m at least aware of what I need to do, what I should do, and what I haven’t done. I’m not yet at the point in my life that I can redefine myself as anything but a mother. I’m still growing human #2 and I have to get her out into the world and a year or two into her life before I can really start he arduous process of redefining who I am. I’m okay with that. I’m comfortable with the fact that – for now – I am simply Mommy. It’s a stage of my life. And like all stages, this one will pass (or wane, really) and my children will start to be far more independent and I’ll have the chance to look at who or what I want to be next.
For right now, I try to remember to shower. I try to drink a cup of hot tea or cider with my husband in the evening. I try to keep the house tidy. These are the ways I care of myself within my current construct. And that feels good.
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Mr Midnight, Sir Winston and myself totally believe in taking healthy, egoistic time out for oneself. My two furry friends are all up for it (well they would be being cats) and although I am not a mother, everyone should at least attempt to find that “special moment” for themselves everyday. We believe the world would be in a lot better shape if we did take more care of ourselves.
Meow from Mr Midnight, purr purr from Sir Winston and kindest regards from myself. 🙂
I agree. If we were all a little more rested and cared for, the world would probably be a much kinder place!
That goes without saying.
If we took care of ourselves a lot more then we would be able to look after others properly.
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I totally get you, showering used to be a relaxing everyday thing. Now, when I shower (usually every 2-3 days oops!) it’s usually with the 3 month old and both toddlers in the washroom with me (often the toddlers are in the shower with me)… Showering completely alone is a luxury I rarely get to indulge in, but hey.
It’s hard to find “me time” as a mom, glad you’ve found some ways!
Isn’t it funny the things we now find enjoyable and luxurious?! Motherhood is hilarious like that haha!